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Tips for working through disagreements regarding parenting

Many parents feel strongly about the way they handle parenting matters. When you and your ex don't agree about how these matters should be handled, things can get difficult. From the start of the co-parenting relationship, negotiating is going to be a necessary tool for handling disagreements.

One of the most important things to do when you are trying to work with your co-parent is to remain flexible. Trying to stand firm on everything is just going to lead to frustrations. You are going to have to determine what aspects of the child custody situation are truly important.

Don't compare your divorce to your friend's divorce

You probably have friends who have gone through a divorce. This can help you considerably when you are going through your own because you know that you have someone who might be able to empathize with what you are going through. One thing to remember in these cases is that you can't compare what you are going through with what they went through.

Every divorce is a personal journey. When you try to compare what you are going through with what someone else when through, you might find that you become frustrated or discouraged. Instead of doing this, you need to think about what you are going through and focus on what you can do to better your own situation.

Does a high asset divorce mean a friendlier divorce?

People who experience divorce come from all different walks of life. Those who have considerable wealth might worry that more assets means more potential points of contention. It's not an outlandish theory, especially considering that the number one thing couples typically fight over is money.

However, recent research suggests another idea. Some experts theorize that a certain threshold of assets will determine whether a couple has a friendly divorce. That amount is $5 million, according to one expert who says that if a couple's assets total more than that, they're less likely to argue. If you have a high level of assets but don't quite meet that number, experts have explanations for this theory that may help you through your high-asset divorce here in Pennsylvania.

Parenting plan terms have to put the children first

Child custody matters can be rather difficult to work through. Both parents might be standing firm over the issues related to the kids. This is a hard spot to be in because it makes it hard to work as a team for the children. We know that you only want what is best for your children, and we are here to help you work through it all.

When you and your ex are communicating with each other, it is critical that both parties remain respectful. Any disrespectful words or actions are a signal that the conversation is devolving and likely won't end in a good way.

Kids can't be treated as miniature adults during divorce

One of the most primal instincts for parents is to protect their children. This is the case when there is a divorce. You want to keep them protected throughout the process. There are a variety of ways that this can happen, but the most important to remember is that you keep the focus on them.

You have to remember that children aren't just miniature adults. They don't have the emotional coping skills or understanding that adults have, so they won't be able to handle things in the same way as an adult would. It is imperative that you find age-appropriate ways to help them work through this.

Plan carefully when leaving an abusive home

There aren't any good things that can come out of an abusive marriage. For the victim, a priority is usually getting out of the situation, but this can sometimes be difficult. Some abusers will isolate the person so much that they don't have any way to leave. They don't have anyone they can turn to when they need a safe place to go. They don't have money to leave. This puts the abuser in full control, which is usually the goal.

We know that people in this situation might feel hopeless, but they do have options that they can explore for getting out of the abusive home. They need to put safety first when they make the plan. If they try to walk out while the abuser is right there with them, they might face extreme violence. For this reason, they might opt to leave when the abuser isn't home.

Don't let kids play you against your ex

When you have children with someone, you are going to have to deal with that person for a long time, at least until the kids are grown. If you divorce, this can be a challenge since you will have to continue to act as a parenting team. This can help to head off issues that can occur when the kids try to play one parent against the other.

Children are often very perceptive and observant. They are good at figuring out which parent they can get to agree to specific things. Once they learn this, they might use that knowledge to get what they want from the parent who will agree. This may not be a huge deal in some cases, but there might be times when they go to one parent after the other one has already given an answer. This can cause tension in the parenting relationship.

Will your divorce interfere with your business?

Your divorce may be among the most overwhelming and consuming events in your life. However, if you run a Pennsylvania business, you may not have the luxury of allowing the process to take up your time and energy. You know that personal issues of your employees can cause costly disruptions to the workday, and you want to minimize the effect of your divorce on the success of your company.

At the same time, you do not want to jeopardize your chances of reaching your goals in the divorce. You may have a lot on the line, perhaps including your share in the business. Because of this, you want to give your attention to the important details and to be available when your attorney needs to consult with you. Finding a delicate balance will be important as the divorce proceeds.

Consider the benefits and drawbacks of assets in divorce

When you have gotten accustomed to living at a certain standard, it can be hard to come to terms with the fact that your divorce might mean that you aren't going to be able to keep up with that. People who are going through a high-asset divorce often face this exact thought. If it is left unchecked, it can lead to the person pushing too hard for assets that aren't actually going to benefit them in the future.

We know that you might be in a position where you have to make some difficult decisions. We can work with you to help you find out what options you have for the divorce. In some cases, downsizing and simplifying might be the option that helps you reduce your stress, so think carefully about every aspect of the property division.

Infants have unique needs in child custody cases

Child custody agreements must be created based on what is best for the children. This means that an arrangement that works for a teen won't necessarily work for an infant. The child's age and needs can affect what is best for babies who are at the center of a custody case.

For parents of infants, there are a few considerations to think about when trying to come up with a plan for the child. One of these is whether the mother is nursing the child. If she is, visitation will the father might need to happen with the mother close so that she can feed the infant when necessary. As her milk supply stabilizes and once she is able to pump, she can provide the father with the milk so he can feed the baby when he has them.

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