Model Positive Behavior for Your Children During Divorce

Encouraging your children throughout your divorce can help them to learn coping skills when they face difficult changes. You must think about your child's unique needs so you can determine how to assist them best. Their age and maturity level might also have an impact on this.

One of the most important things to do is to let them know that you are here for them. They need to know that their parents still support and love them. Keeping the line of communication open also lets them know that they have someone to talk to when things get overwhelming.

Emotions can be hard for children to deal with. Younger kids might think that they are scary and probably can't work through them alone. You can show them how to handle those feelings productively.

Explain that the divorce isn't their fault. Children will often internalize the situation, which could mean they take the blame for the split. Even though you don't have to provide a detailed version of what led to the end of the marriage, you can let them know that it was a decision based solely on adult matters.

Your children might need time to grieve so they can move forward with adjusting to the situation. Allow them to do this without allowing them to wallow in sorrow. Introducing the new routine can give them something to focus on, which might vastly help their mental state.

They might take their cues from you about how to handle the situation. Keeping a positive attitude about it all is infectious and may help them as they learn to love their new way of life.

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