Child custody matters can be rather difficult to work through. Both parents might be standing firm over the issues related to the kids. This is a hard spot to be in because it makes it hard to work as a team for the children. We know that you only want what is best for your children, and we are here to help you work through it all.
When you and your ex are communicating with each other, it is critical that both parties remain respectful. Any disrespectful words or actions are a signal that the conversation is devolving and likely won't end in a good way.
It might be necessary for you to go through mediation when you are trying to work out these points. This gives you the benefit of having a neutral third party work to keep the conversations on track. The person can also give you options that might help you to resolve the issues at hand.
One thing to remember as you work out the parenting plan points is that you have to put yourself aside. This is a time when you have to do what is best for the children. This means that you might have to accept that your ex's idea was the better option and go with it.
The relationship you have with your ex isn't going to end until your children are grown. It is usually best to set the marital drama aside and focus on being the best parenting team possible. This can start as soon as the parenting plan terms negotiations.