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Divorce issues to keep in mind before proceedings

When you said "I do" in a Pennsylvania church, court house or other location on your wedding day, you undoubtedly believed you and your spouse would be together for the rest of your lives. Perhaps, 10 or more years have passed since then. You have children, a house, maybe even vacation property. You and your spouse might be business owners or have built a solid financial portfolio through investments. You've made a decade or more of memories together, some good and some you'd rather forget.

If the latter started to outweigh the former at some point, you might be one of many Pennsylvania spouses who is now preparing for divorce. Your highest priority may be ensuring that your children's best interests are protected. You might also be concerned about marital property. However, there are numerous other issues, including some that may catch you off guard, that you'll want to keep in mind as you lay the groundwork for a new lifestyle.

Divorce often sparks a grieving process

You and your soon-to-be ex have shared intensely personal and intimate experiences in life. Even if you are the one who filed for divorce, you may be surprised at how sad you feel as your day of settlement draws near. Many Pennsylvania spouses say they mourned the loss of their marriages.

It is okay to grieve what will be no more after your divorce. While your marital relationship may have included numerous irresolvable problems, it's only natural that you also have memories of happier times and that moving on in life without the person you married may cause a sense of sorrow.

Empathy toward your spouse

Don't be surprised if you feel sorry for your spouse after you file for divorce. When he or she grasps the finality of the situation, it may evoke emotions that lead you to feel empathetic toward him or her. Being able to extend compassion toward your ex is better than being locked in a nasty, drawn-out court battle, right?

You might not even have to go to court to divorce

Do you know that it's often possible to finalize a divorce without ever stepping foot inside a courtroom? There are alternate means for working out terms of the agreement and achieving a fair settlement. If you're not familiar with the concept, you may want to discuss your options with someone who is well-versed in the laws that govern divorce in this state.

A great sense of relief

Many people describe feeling relieved and liberated after navigating divorce proceedings. While there are typically numerous issues to resolve, such as property division, child custody, alimony or child support, if you have a strong support network in place, you may be able to accomplish your goals in a swift and economically feasible fashion.

Once you secure a settlement, you might find yourself enjoying a new sense of independence. You definitely can't change the past but you will have a lot of control over your own future. Many spouses say that focusing on this aspect of divorce has helped them come to terms with their circumstances and move forward in life with a positive attitude.

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