When you share children with an ex, life can be difficult. You have to think about what is best for your children, but you have to balance that with a parenting plan and other factors. All of this can make it difficult to do what you feel is best.
There are some ways that you can bolster the likelihood that your parenting arrangement is going to work. When it works, your children have what they need to live their best life. Consider these tips:
- Present a united front before the children. This lets them know that they can count on both parents.
- Speak directly to your ex. Never try to relay messages through the children. Not only can the message get altered, but it isn't fair to the kids.
- Never speak negatively, especially about your co-parent. Keeping things positive can help the children to see that the situation isn't a bad one.
- Follow through on promises, and don't make ones you can't keep. Your children are counting on you to do what you say you will.
- Ask your children about their emotions. Having a heart-to-heart talk with the kids lets you know if there are any areas where they feel they need help.
- Encourage your children in all things positive. Whether this is regarding their schoolwork or their relationship with your ex, offer a kind word and helpful advice.
It is sometimes a challenge to make parenting arrangements of this sort work. Remember that your situation isn't like anyone else's, so you need to do what you feel is best for the circumstances that are present in your life.