When it comes to exchanging custody of your children you should keep it quick and painless. If you don't get along with the other parent or you might not even be allowed to be within 100 feet of the other parent, it's best to find a neutral site to make the custody exchange in so everyone involved feels comfortable.
If you do not have a good relationship with the other parent of your children, you should never exchange custody at either parent's home. These are not neutral sites. One parent will always have the upper hand when performing an exchange at home.
When choosing a neutral site, you need to take a couple of things into consideration. For starters, the distance to the location from the other parent's home or work. You also need to consider if it is a secluded location or a public one. Your best bet is to choose a public location where a lot of people are around and can see what is happening.
A great neutral location is the child's school. If the school is too far for the other parent you could always choose the local police station or fire department. Many police departments these days have safe exchange spots in their parking lot that are monitored by cameras. They are typically used for people who buy items online but could also be used to exchange child custody.
Where do you like to meet to exchange child custody with the other parent of your children? If it's not a neutral site, you might be causing everyone involved a lot of undue stress.