Your ex is supposed to pay child support. You haven't seen those checks in months. Things are getting tight financially and you need help.
People often rationalize their lack of payment, even if it breaks a court order and is illegal. Below are eight of the most common things they say when they get to court:
- I'll be able to make the payments soon, or even tomorrow.
- I'm waiting for my tax refund, and then I'll even up the back payments.
- I lost my job, but I'm trying to get another one. I just had an interview.
- I'm disabled. I'm trying to get benefits.
- I'm about to start my new job this week. If I go to jail, I'll lose it and then I'll never be able to pay.
- I thought the money was paid already.
- I have been paying some of the money, just not everything.
- I have another family and more kids. I can't afford to pay support for the children who don't live with me when I already have to pay for the kids who do live with me.
These are just eight examples, and there are plenty more.
In some cases, the excuses are valid. If someone loses a job or has a second family, it is possible for child support to be modified. The courts understand that circumstances change.
However, this has to be done legally, in court. A parent can't just alter the payments or stop paying as he or she sees fit. If the right steps aren't followed, back payments are still owed, regardless of the new situation.
A case like this can get very complicated and emotional. It's important for parents on both sides to know their rights and legal options.
Source: Medium, "The Top 25 Child Support Excuses," Chris Seaton, accessed Oct. 12, 2017