The end of a marriage can be quite an experience for many Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, couples. Divorce issues can crush a spouse emotionally, financially and even physically. However, a divorcing spouse should not let a divorce get in the way of his or her opportunity to start a new, better life. Taking the divorce bull by the horns may be difficult, but is not impossible. There are ways to take control of a divorce before it gets out of control.
First, it is important to pay close attention to the divorcing spouse's physical and emotional well-being. Exercise, eating healthy and getting enough rest are essential in successfully making it through the divorce process. Having a sound mind and body also affects a spouse's ability to make sound decisions. Although a person will often react in an angry manner when he or she is hurt - and there is a lot of hurt in a divorce - it is important to release these toxic emotions. Letting anger do the talking is not only emotionally inappropriate, but it can deplete a spouse's resources in the divorce.
Next, it is essential to monitor the marital finances. Marital finances have a strange way of disappearing once the divorce process starts. It is important to actively monitor the finances. It is a good idea to make a list of assets, income, credit cards and debts, as well as an inventory of household items. Although furniture may not seem valuable, it often is. Also, the spouses should not let emotions and finances mix. Whatever demands the spouses make in the divorce process, the emotions should be left out of it, if at all possible.
While on the topic of making demands, it is very important to learn to negotiate effectively. Determining what a spouse wants, needs and deserves and how the spouses are able to compromise are essential to a successful and amicable divorce.
Not letting the stress of a divorce take over can save a Philadelphia spouse from unnecessary disputes about property division, child custody and other important divorce issues. It is also a good way to start a new and better life.
Source: The Huffington Post, "5 Ways to Take Control of Your Divorce Before It Takes Control of You," Cheryl and Joe Dillon, April 21, 2014