Unfortunately, marriage is not always happiness and smiles. All marriages present challenges to the couple; sometimes those challenges are insurmountable and sometimes they can be overcome. There are several reasons why a marriage may come to an unexpected, bitter end. For residents of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, divorce may involve multiple issues like property division, alimony and child custody.
Some divorce cases may also involve infidelity or abandonment. Surprisingly, when those issues are involved, people assume that there were serious issues in the marriage that drove that spouse to do what he or she did. The spouse on the receiving end may be blamed for causing the bad behavior of the other spouse by driving him or her to that bad behavior.
These perceptions may not be true, but people often blame one spouse or the other for the breakup. Many humans need to feel that they are in control of their lives. When it comes to infidelity and abandonment issues that may lead to divorce, some people may think that they can avoid divorce if they behave in a certain way.
Ultimately, blaming the wrong person will not produce good results. It may be just a distraction from issues that may arise from other sources and may be a way of covering up emotional pain. People who may be having thoughts about divorce due to infidelity and abandonment may be wise to seek the help of a mental health professional, doctor, or religious advisor. These professionals may have the appropriate knowledge and a profound ability to help. Taking the most appropriate action is not always clear and it will give the person involved in the divorce some peace of mind if he or she speaks with a knowledgeable professional.
Source: Huffington Post, "The Blame Game," Lisa Arends, March 12, 2013