Child custody matters are not a common divorce issue that ends when the divorce has been finalized. Although child custody mainly concerns the best interests of the child, not all parents are necessarily on the same page when it comes to what that means. Conflicts and disagreements are expected. Even parents in Philadelphia may relate to this. Unfortunately, the disputes between parents may also happen during the child's special events.
Special events, such as birthdays, school conferences, graduations and weddings, when both divorced parents are likely to attend, can be a problematic situation. Parents, however, may actually be able to avoid the worst-case scenario of conflicts and disagreements in these situations.
In such instances, how each parent interacts with the ex-spouse can be critical. To avoid arguments, a spouse may wish to think of the ex-spouse as a difficult business associate. Being professional and more understanding may benefit not only both parents but the child as well. Having a civil manner and treating the ex-spouse with respect may prevent emotional confrontations. It may also be helpful to ignore any comments or advice from relatives and friends during special events. In doing so, any topic or simple remark that may start an argument can be halted.
Ultimately, parents should remember that such occasions are very important for the child. The parents need to set aside personal issues and cherish the time the time spent with children.
Special occasions, holidays and school activities are some of the events that often result in confrontations between parents. Fortunately, Philadelphia parents may address and resolve this concern with an effective parenting plan. The sound advice of a legal professional regarding the possible problems that may arise in co-parenting may be advantageous for both parents and children.
Source: Huffingtonpost "How to Deal With Your Ex at Your Children's Special Events" Nancy Kay, Sept. 6, 2013